Effective communication is good, right? Personally, I believe it’s next to impossible to have a healthy, rewarding relationship without it. Sure, the level of required relationship communication depends on your level of intimacy with the person you are communicating with. But, can open communication ever be destructive, even when the communicator thinks they are providing a helpful message for the recipient? I would say it all boils down to knowing your audience. Think about what you are about to convey, and then try to predict how your recipient is going to react. Is the message sensitive or volatile enough to destroy the relationship you currently have? If so, it’s best to think twice. Sounds simple enough, right?
Take this story, for example. I know a woman that, for her whole life, carried resentment about how her father raised her. This story begins when she was 50 years old and her father was 72. She felt she had not been nurtured and supported as much as she needed when she was growing up. Her father was a “hard-liner”. We all know the type. A man made of mostly discipline and not enough encouragement, keeping his feelings to himself. Something compelled the woman to spill her guts and write her father a letter. In this letter she described how she felt about her relationship with her father. She pointed out many of the shortcomings in her life and how she felt he was the cause of them because she “didn’t get what she needed from him”. She pointed these things out in a very polite manner; obviously assuming her father would understand and feel compassion for her. What actually happened was quite the contrary. The father was very angry after reading her letter and felt he was being attacked. What was once an acceptable relationship was now broken beyond repair. At the time the daughter wrote the letter, she thought it would benefit her to get those things off her chest and didn’t take time to ponder how her father would deal with such things.
The case above could be considered “bad communication” as it damaged the relationship it was meant to improve. Here are some things you might want to consider before initiating a discussion with someone, especially when your message contains sensitive, blaming or potentially negative information.
1. What do you expect to accomplish with your message?
2. Try to predict how your audience will respond. Are you prepared for an unexpected outcome?
3. Is it so important for you to get your message across that it’s worth the risk of breaking the relationship? In some cases it may be, such as a case with a friend or spouse.
4. If you predict that your message may cause undesirable results, you may want to use a good friend or family member as a sounding board, so you can clear your head of your thoughts. Even more so, it can be very beneficial for you to write the person a letter but never deliver it. I believe this works better than spilling your guts to a third party.
5. You can ask advice from a trusted friend or family member (especially if they know the recipient of the message). However, always make the final decision on what to do. Your advisor probably has nothing to lose and may not give you proper advice in the matter.
Relationship communication is important in everyone’s life, whether with friends, family, business associates or complete strangers. For that reason, care should always be taken on how to communicate sensitive information. Can communication be a bad thing? I think it always depends on the circumstances. Sometimes you need to choose to hold back or potentially lose the relationship.
Carl Herkes
http://www.articlesbase.com/advice-articles/communication-in-relationships-is-there-such-a-thing-as-bad-communication-10767.html
Here is another interesting article I recently came across by Dennis Jaylon. Had you ever considered that you could learn how to improve your Communication skill by using the telephone ?
Read on….
Who would not want to create a smart and enchanting persona? And is that possible even on telephones? Yes… It is Possible!
The modern day telephones enable us to do more than we could do with them till some years back. But before we get to that, let us look at some of the features that are there in telephones today Caller ID (CLIP), Voice Mail, LCD screen, call back facilities and many many more. Plus there are added enhancements to make our conversations crystal clear like superb sound quality, digital speakerphone, even stylish designs add the zing factor in our messages.
Now coming to the features of modern telephones and how they help us in creating a charismatic and effective personality over the phone.
Let us start with Caller ID or CLIP facility Caller ID shows us the numbers that are calling us. If the number looks familiar, we can tweak our voice a little to create just the image we have or desire to have in the caller’s perception. For example, if it is from office or from a colleague, you can sound professional and smart. And if it is from a dear one, you can turn down the professionalism and present a softer you.
Then there is ‘Voice Message Recording service’ which enables you to drop a message when the receiver on the other end, is unable to pick up the call. You can record your message by clearly telling your name and the reason for which you called. If you are calling someone who does not know you, you should clearly tell your name (spell it, if required) and leave your contact number. Give a time when you can receive the call back and also give a brief summary for why you called up.
The more clarity you have in your message, the more you create a good impression. And with the help of modern day telephones and their multiple features, utilise all your capabilities to make your mark.
Dennis Jaylon is a renowned business writer who has years of experience in writing technical reviews, product descriptions and product feature analysis of technical gadgets and gizmos. He has won appreciation especially for enlightening people about the latest communication gizmos…the Telephones.
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Effective Business Communications
by Herta A. Murphy, Herbert W. Hildebrandt and Jane P. Thomas
7th ed
McGraw Hill, 1997
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hello dear,
i need to know the best way to improve communication skills and vocabulary skills in english.what are the ways to develop these skills as quickly as possible
Very good choice , now whether it’s for your TOEFL or IELTS exam or for day to day conversations. I recommend you to follow these steps.
Online —-
1> Just go to this like to find about online programs http://australianetwork.com/guide/progra… and Education , variety of shows covers almost basic everything.
Now you will get the basic knowledge
2> Read Some TOEFL or IELTS exam guids contains reading & listening skills.There are plenty of resources available on internet just go through it.
-Dont worry they are based on simple tests and easy. useful for intermediate level of knowledge.
Television——
3>Prefer Listen NEWS in english
- Daily usage of pronounciation , some specific words they used would become familer.
4> Watch Movies espicailly Animations , CARTOONS they have comman understading english that might be understood by everyone.
Chating and talking —-
5>If u like Chat always try to sick around with genral english not mixing with your native language .
6>With your friends asky then to correct you if you made any mistakes in english speaking.
Difficult situations
7>Try to get a best Dictonary , I prefer Oxford dictonary to understand the meaning of difficult words.
The same words express diffreent meaning depending on situations.
Accent
6>Now you might want to choose between UK & US accent it’s totally your choice.
Always read the
Source(s):
http://australianetwork.com/guide/progra… and Education
Both are equally important but I guess I would have to say communication. I used to date a girl named Yamilette about 4 years ago. It was the best 5 months ever with all the crazy sex. However, we would rarely go out and we barely spoke to one another during the course of the day. After a while, we grew tired of one another and simply called it quits. We never had a proper foundation for our relationship and therefore it didn’t work out. Communicating and understanding does not mean that your relationship will stay intact, but it will go a long way to make it more prosperous.
I need 4 appropriate examples of the aids and barriers to effective communication. plzz help!
Based on your question here is a couple that might help:
(Aid) Technology – Electronic communication like e-mail has aided the speed and efficiency of communication which cuts down time and distance barriers.
(Barrier) Language – Increasing international business means the difference in language between one part of a business and another overseas can provide a barrier to communication.
Getting Things Done Through Effective Communication
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Executives and managers are involved in meetings, presentations, interviews, conferences, telephone conversations, memos or emails, participating in all sorts of communications methods to exchange the necessary information. In fact, when one examines an organization, it can be easily seen that many examples of verbal and nonverbal behavior exist. Some communication specialists believe that these and almost all other forms of behavior are really means of communication and conversely that all forms of communication reflect the behavior of individuals. But, is this the case? Well, if nothing else, the fact remains that in every organization, communication occurs constantly.
People who are concerned with human communication do not focus on precisely what one says or writes, but on how the persons involved perceive and translate the message they send and receive. Experts working in the behavioral sciences and related areas have contributed a great deal in recent years to the field of communication. For example, valuable work on theories of human communication has been done by psychiatrist Jurgen Ruesch. Dr. Ruesch identifies various communication networks as follows: – The intrapersonal network is entirely within the individual and involves thinking and feeling. – The interpersonal communication network links two or more persons. – The group interaction network links groups of people. Because of the number of people involved, it is usually difficult to achieve effective communication with everybody. – The final network is cultural. Here there is no specific originator or receiver of the message. Certain symbols in our society-cars, clothing, homes, morals, and the like-are part of out cultural network. It is almost impossible to correct or change the system because of its powerful and pervasive nature.
Thus, it is easy to estimate the importance of communication to managers. In an effort to attain organizational goals, they use communication to persuade, inform, and motivate people who play key roles in getting things done. Managers almost always get their jobs done through other people. They may be skilled controllers, production supervisors, or directors of engineering, but they need people to help them achieve their objectives. But the only way to get other people to do what a manager thinks should be done is through communication.
Research indicates that although monetary awards and fear of punishment might be effective motivators, these rarely work on a long-term basis. Communication, which often fulfills basic social and egoistic needs, can and does work as a positive motivator. In fact, some spoken words of praise and recognition or a look that reflects encouragement or approval may prove to be just as effective a means of communication as any written memorandum.
Jonathon Hardcastle
http://www.articlesbase.com/communication-articles/getting-things-done-through-effective-communication-66807.html