how do you improve communication when your partner is refusing to open up and tell you what is wrong?
ByPartner of 5 years has started getting hyper critical of me shouts and picks on me and discusses me with others. He is refusing to tell me what is going on or why he is acting this way. He mutters things to himself under his breath and when i ask what it is? He snaps. He does not have a mental health problem so could I have an explanation? It hurts me alot.
when my ex began finding fault and picking on me, i too had no idea why. he too refused to talk, or seek help, or go to therapy. my ex never seemed to be mental either. found out later that he had had a girlfriend for some time, and really just did not want to be with me. there is not much u can do unless he is willing. and if he is seeing someone else, he will not be focused on u, or any problems.
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April 15th, 2010 at 1:23 am
If he won’t talk & your unhappy…leave the relationship.
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April 15th, 2010 at 1:54 am
Go on a holiday by yourself, have a break. I bet he soon changes.
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April 15th, 2010 at 2:36 am
Don’t speak to him, or show him any attention, and see what happens. Sounds like He wants out, and hopes you get mad and leave.
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April 15th, 2010 at 3:14 am
Are you completely sure he doesn’t have a mental health problem?
I can’t really give you a good answer without knowing what he says about you. I just can’t assume that they’re horrible things without knowing it. If he continues with his anger and frustration, I suggest leaving the house for a few days and staying with a friend or possibly with your parents (if at all possible of course) until he gets his crap straight. There is no reason (that you know of) for him to be acting this way, and there’s REALLY no reason for him to be talking about you and "discussing you with others". That’s bull, and it’s high school crap.
Best of luck.
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April 15th, 2010 at 3:45 am
im sorry hun. um try one day going home early, cleaning up the house, maybe make your self look good, smell good, have a nice dinner on the table so that when he comes home from work he will have nothin to complain about. and site down at the table have a nive calm dinner together and maybe try to talk about how hes feeling and how it makes you feel, in a nice calm manner.
I hope this helps.
Happy Valentine’s Day
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April 15th, 2010 at 4:28 am
Sounds like he could be having some insecurity issues and is taking it out on you. Any abrupt changes in his life recently? The other is that he is cheating. Tell him that the two of you need to talk because this is very unfair to you.
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April 15th, 2010 at 5:04 am
I know what you’re going through except i’ve been with my bf for only a year and a half. I don’t know what is wrong. Ever since we went to college (we go to different ones abt an hour away from each other and we hardly see each other) he listens to his single, no life, no female having friends. He even went so far as to call me a bitch behind my back. The old him wouldve never done that. I’m hurt too. He probably is frustrated though. do you guys argue a lot? we do right now, and its mainly because we hardly spend any time together now. I wish you luck
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April 15th, 2010 at 5:43 am
You can’t make anyone do anything they don’t want to do.
As long as he doesn’t care about it, it’s not going to change.
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April 15th, 2010 at 5:55 am
Well, I would just leave for a few days not even tell him, let him worry about you, and then maybe he’ll start to realize what he’s doing is unfare to you. Or if you dont want to leave just completely ignore him, go do something fun with your friends, dress up sexy and go to the bar, and make him wonder for once, cut off all comunication to him until he ask "why are you ignoring me"
Or if you think he’s cheating, come home early, check who he’s been talking to on his phone, and see if he smells like purfume…etc… If you find out he is cheating just pack you shit and go act like it doesnt hert you at all, that will hert him the most!
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April 15th, 2010 at 6:02 am
Well if he refuses to tell you, then don`t talk to him at all. Don`t start any argument, don`t give him any excuses for his behavior. Is not a mental problem maybe goes under emotional issue. But when he`s ready to talk, he will talk–meanwhile anything you do he`ll take it as provocation or an insult.. (you may ask, yes, insult to what?, that`s an excuse,,,see-).Maybe he`s protecting or hiding something and playing roles help him out.
Good luck!…………oh men!.
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April 15th, 2010 at 6:51 am
Leave him.
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April 15th, 2010 at 7:39 am
when my ex began finding fault and picking on me, i too had no idea why. he too refused to talk, or seek help, or go to therapy. my ex never seemed to be mental either. found out later that he had had a girlfriend for some time, and really just did not want to be with me. there is not much u can do unless he is willing. and if he is seeing someone else, he will not be focused on u, or any problems.
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